Why Talking is not Enough turns conventional relationship books and relationships advice on its head by introducing truly revolutionary loving actions that can be used by one partner, acting alone. Often, one partner isn't even available for communication and won't read any relationship books, and couples may feel worse after they try to talk about a relationship problem, even if they try to follow the best relationships advice. Page tells couples to abandon the illusion that they will be able to "solve" their relationship problem, and, even if they could, that solving their problem will make them happier. The way to feel better about your partner, she explains, is to focus directly on creating a harmonious atmosphere in the relationship. In marriage, what matters is not what we say to each other, Page reveals, but what we do. In this latest of her relationship books, Susan Page offers relationships advice that resolves even the toughest relationship problem, a breakthrough 8-step program to stop destructive behavior, detailing specific loving actions–good will, acting "as if," restraint, balance, acting on your own, acceptance, and compassion–that are effective in providing for the needs of loved ones and equally important, for oneself. Why Talking is not Enough demonstrates convincingly that focusing on a relationship problem is more likely to magnify it than to solve it. "It's a giant myth that you have to solve your relationship problems before you can be happy together," Page declares. "In fact, it's the other way around. If you can first be happy together, you will find your problems diminish or disappear altogether." The result is inspiring, practical relationships advice that resonates deep in our hearts and makes Why Talking is not Enough a resource for any relationship, no matter how light or how troubling the relationship problem.